Are You Actually Interested or Just Bored?

We’ve all been there—texting someone back and forth, entertaining the idea of a relationship, but deep down, you’re not sure if you actually like them or if they’re just filling time. In a world where dating apps, social media, and the endless “talking stage” keep options open, it’s easy to mistake interest for convenience. So, how do you know if you're genuinely into someone or just keeping them around for entertainment and validation?

1. Do You Look Forward to Talking to Them?

If you find yourself excited to hear from them, initiating conversations, and genuinely enjoying their presence, you’re likely interested. If you only respond when you have nothing else to do, they might just be a distraction.

2. Are You Curious About Their Life?

Real interest means wanting to know more about them—their hobbies, opinions, and even the small details. If you never ask questions or don’t really care about their responses, you’re probably just passing the time.

3. Would You Hang Out Without the Flirting?

Would you enjoy spending time with them if there was zero flirting involved? If the idea of a real, meaningful connection sounds boring, then your attraction might be surface-level.

4. Are You Keeping Them Around for Validation?

Sometimes, we entertain people not because we like them but because we like being liked. If their attention boosts your ego but you wouldn’t care if they stopped responding, you might just be in it for the validation.

5. Do You Feel a Connection Beyond Texting?

Some people are fun to talk to but don’t hold your attention in person. If your conversations are surface-level, and you don’t feel a spark when you're actually together, that’s a sign of boredom over real interest.

6. Would You Be Upset If They Stopped Talking to You?

If they ghosted you, would you be genuinely hurt or just mildly annoyed that your source of entertainment disappeared? If it’s the latter, it’s not real interest—it’s just convenience.

So, What Now?

If you realize you’re only keeping someone around because you're bored, it’s best to be honest with yourself (and them). If you actually like them, put in real effort. If not, let them go instead of stringing them along. Someone else will appreciate them in a way you don’t—and you’ll free yourself up for something (or someone) you actually want.