How To Dominate Cuffing Season
It’s that time of year again where cuffing season is beginning to roll back around. Especially when the weather gets colder, nights get longer, and with the holidays approaching, it is kind of hard not to want a romantic partner to share that time with. Despite that cuffing season can all get us in our feels, it’s always important to have a little bit of a game plan in order to get the best outcome, whether that means getting locked down or continuing to fly solo. Here are our best tips to get exactly what you want!
Put Yourself Out There
Cuffing season doesn't work through telepathy; you've got to get out there, which I know is easier said than done. Attend social events, join dating apps, and let your friends know you're open to meeting people. Even though you may want to just hide out at home on your couch, you really never know who you could potentially meet if you take a chance.
*Just an important disclaimer! Always make sure you do a little background check on whoever you are meeting up with, just so you know you aren’t putting yourself in a dangerous situation.
Keep Your Standards HIGH
Don't settle for less just because you are feeling lonely or are overly eager about getting into a relationship. Your standards should be as high as ever. Being in a partnership should enhance your life, not detract from it. Even creating a list of all of your dating non-negotiables or qualities that you are expecting out of a future partner can help ensure that you are on the right track when it comes to the people you are talking to and going on dates with. If they aren’t up to standard, they’ve got to go immediately.
Focus on Your Likes, Not Theirs
Instead of worrying if the other person likes you, turn the tables and ask, "Do I actually like them?" Authenticity is magnetic. Be yourself, and prioritize your wants/needs over fleeting approval. Don’t let yourself get down bad over a person you still barely know.
Work On Yourself
While your ultimate goal of the season may be to secure a boo, also take this time to work on your self-improvement. Sign up for some exercise classes, pick up a new hobby, or set personal goals. Confidence is attractive, and personal growth makes you a more interesting partner. By becoming the best version of yourself, you open yourself up to so many more opportunities and potential options.
Build Up Your Roster
While there is always a possibility that cuffing season can lead to an actual relationship, it's smart to keep your options open initially. Date multiple people casually to explore connections and find the best match for you. Especially while you aren’t officially committed to anyone, this is your chance to play the field because there’s nothing worse than putting all your eggs in one basket before you actually know if you are truly compatible with a person. If someone hasn’t made the effort to take you off the market, you’re still single honey & can do whatever you want.
If You Are Picking Up On Red Flags Early On, RUN
If you spot red flags early on, don't ignore them. I’ve always stood by the saying “where there’s smoke, there’s fire.” Your gut feeling is usually right. It's better to exit a situation that doesn't feel right than to invest time in something destined for disappointment.