5 Signs Of A Great Romantic Partner (& Things To Watch Out For)
I can admit that by no means am I a dating expert, but over the past several years, I do feel like I have come to a pretty clear conclusion of what I expect out of a romantic partner. While everyone may set different expectations for what they value in the people they choose to enter into a relationship with, I wanted to share some of my non-negotiables and what I view as signs that someone will be a great partner. Of course there is no such thing as a perfect person, but setting strong (but imo honestly reasonable) standards for yourself and not just settling will help you to find exactly what you deserve & weed out all the ones who are just going to waste your time.
They have passions/goals & are actually taking (or have already taken) the proper steps to achieve them. - Why settle for mediocre when you can have someone great? Being with someone who is constantly motivated and putting in the work, even on the hard days, is the type of person who will always help to push you to be your best self too (and vice-versa). The last thing you want in a relationship is to have to constantly be nagging your partner to stop being lazy and to get their life together. NO THANKS
They have a kind heart, but are still able to set healthy boundaries in their life. - Being kind is debatably one of the most important qualities a person can have, in my opinion. But, at the same time, if a person is not able to set healthy boundaries, they are just making themself a target to be used and to be walked all over by others, which is not such a great thing. A person who has an amazing heart, but can still, in respectful way, say “no” or stand up for themselves when it is needed, is sooo attractive.
They take good care of themself. - How is a person supposed to be an outstanding partner to you if they can’t even show care to themselves? For instance, I always look for a person who puts healthy food in their body, sets aside time to stay active, takes good care or their skin/hair, and just has good hygiene habits (which should be a given). And obviously I don’t mean that someone needs to be extreme about any of these things, but just having good self maintenance habits is beyond important.
They surround themself with good friends/people. - Who a person surrounds themself with is WHO THEY ARE TOO. If a person has friends who are also kind, smart, goal oriented, and successful, this is more often than not a very good sign. Also, just having a group of friends who are truly genuine and lift one another up is seriously a priceless trait. But, if they are the type of person who surrounds themselves with people who are just concerned about getting fucked up and going out every night & are not working on bettering themselves/achieving anything….. BIG RED FLAG.
They show you with actions that they value you, not just words. - TALK IS CHEAP. I know this phrase is basic, but it’s so true. Someone can tell you one million times how much they care for you, but are they respecting your time, keeping their word on things they say they will do, communicating with you in a mature way, are they honest/don’t lie, and do they make sure you feel seen/heard? If they aren’t able to do these things, which honestly are the bare minimum, it may be time to rethink if this is something you really want to get involved with.
That’s all! I know I gave some tough love in here, but it’s really because we have all been there at one point or another & I would have LOVED to have known all of this when I was younger. Like I mentioned before, no relationship/person will ever be perfect, but there’s no point in sticking around with someone who just straight up is not it. I love you and don’t be afraid to cut a loser off. Just because a person may seem convenient for now because you don’t want to be alone, YOU WILL NEVER GET THAT TIME BACK. Spending some time on your own, working on yourself, and creating boundaries/standards that you wholeheartedly stand behind is the greatest form of self care that there is & that is exactly when your true person will come <3. Better yet, you may even realize that you are all that you need.