Things to Remember When You’re In the Talking Stage
So, you're in the talking stage - that in-between phase where things are getting interesting but not quite official yet. It's a mix of excitement, uncertainty, and maybe a little bit of nerves.
Whether you’re new to the dating scene or have been out there for a while, we got you covered with the tips you’ll need to not only navigate, but also make the most of the ups and downs of this phase.
Don’t Entertain Guys Newly Out of a Relationship
It can be tempting to be a supportive shoulder to lean on for someone fresh out of a breakup. However, entering into something with someone who hasn't had time to heal can lead to complications down the line. The last thing you want is a guy who is not over his ex & to have your precious time wasted.
If They Aren’t Being Consistent, They Probably Aren’t That Interested
Consistency is key in any relationship. If someone is hot and cold or fails to follow through on their promises, it may be a sign that they're not as invested as you are. Trust your instincts and don't settle for someone who isn't willing to make you a priority. It’s really not that hard to pick up the phone to text/call and make plans. Even the busiest people can make the time for someone they really have the desire to pursue.
Don’t Do Girlfriend Stuff for Them Right Away
It's important to establish boundaries and set expectations early on in a relationship. Don't invest time and energy into doing "girlfriend stuff" for someone who hasn't formally committed to you yet. Save those gestures for someone who is willing to reciprocate and prioritize your relationship or else you honestly risk getting taken advantage of.
Keep It Light & Flirty
The whole point of the talking stage is to get to know someone better, so even though your end goal may be a relationship, this doesn’t mean you can’t still bring a carefree energy. Don’t be afraid to be playful and joke around to show off your sense of humor. Everyone loves someone who’s easy to be around and who they can have a good time with. Not everything has to be so serious. Let the chemistry flow naturally.
If It Doesn't Work Out, Don't Stress - You Never Know Who Else Is Around the Corner
Relationships don't always work out, and that's okay. If things fizzle out with the current person you're seeing, don't stress. Remember that there every talking stage that doesn’t work out means that you’re one person closer to finding the one you’re meant to be with.
Don't Be Afraid to Walk Away If You Need To
Your happiness and well-being should always come first. If a relationship isn't meeting your needs or making you happy, don't be afraid to walk away. The talking stage is still pretty low stakes, so it’s better to cut your losses early if you’ve been noticing red flags.
If There Hasn't Been a Commitment, It's Okay to Keep Your Options Open
Until a commitment has been made, it's important to keep your options open and explore other potential connections. Don't put all your eggs in one basket until you're sure that the relationship is heading in the direction you want.
Have Fun
Dating should be an enjoyable experience. Don't forget to have fun and enjoy getting to know new people along the way.
In conclusion, navigating the modern dating scene can be challenging, but by setting boundaries, trusting your instincts, and prioritizing yourself, you can find a relationship that's right for you. Remember to stay true to yourself and don't settle for anything less than you deserve.